Years ago when I taught at an infant school, there was a big initiative onpositive thinking. We had to say please walk instead of don’t run. A simple enough change, but one that required a lot of thought. I hadn’t even realized that the statements I made daily were negative. It’s easy to get into the habit of negative thoughts, but once you begin to challenge yourself, the positive thoughts come easily.
Someone once told me I was the only person they knew who could take a dire situation and come up with something positive. This statement got me thinking about how some people don’t even try to find anything positive to say or do.
Is it that it’s too easy to moan or put up with things rather than look for the good, or maybe it’s just the habit of having a defeatist attitude?
Turn those thoughts around. Take stock of what you have instead of what you haven’t. Find something to feel good about and appreciate what you have. You have already chosen to read this book, therefore you realize that things are not as good as they could be. But are you ready to open your mind to new opportunities?
So how can you do this? By making the journey, and every journey begins with the first step. Only you know what you want, or need to change to make things better for you, and that’s where you need to start.
Positivity is about seizing the moment. It’s about picking yourself up, dusting down and blowing away the cobwebs. And yes, even positive people have cobwebs that need clearing out now and again.
Commit to a challenge of being positive and focus on that one change. Give yourself a time when you will assess if you met your challenge. It could be as short as an hour or a day when you will commit to making a difference. If you reach the allotted time and you haven’t quite reached your target / stay positive and extend the target time. Only giving up would be negative.
Even if you decide you took on too much to begin with and back track with smaller steps, you are still heading towards your goal. If an hour is too long then cut the time, but be realistic; if it doesn’t take you out of your comfort zone, then you’re not going to make progress.
Make a positive plan for your day ahead. Something to look forward to. Maybe a walk, making a phone call, listening to some music, or something you haven’t done for a while, but really enjoy. It’s all about making yourself feel good and installing a positive attitude for the day ahead.
Get into the habit of starting your day with a positive outlook. What inspires you to feel good? A picture, a photograph sparking good memories, a flower – I love the way fragrance from a flower makes me feel. Whatever it is that that wakes up your senses, do it!
At the end of each day, think about what went well. If things could have been better, what can you do to turn it around tomorrow?